The arrival of a new individual into a little group usually gives rise to some sort of strange attitudes. The example of workers of a company who become more assiduous, brainy, neat and polite when interns are around easily comes to mind. Such mannerisms take an awkward twist when people have to do with those of the opposite sex or a different race. Yes, people with a different colour. An "oyibo".
In our world of today, few persons will snob a friendship offer from a white-skinned person, just any white. Reason: most young people harbour a secret desire to "fall bush". And since visas have become as scarce as a hen's teeth, many of the "ready-to-go" individuals believe empathizing with an "oyibo" can play the trick.
If this were not the case, why would a lady insist on giving her email to a stranger? Hear what she told the man as she glided the address into his hand: "Please, if you don't want me, just give the address to any of your friends, your family or just anybody who wants a black lady. You can also put up the announcement in a paper". Can we be so desperate?
Such debasement does not only dishonour the feminine folk but embarrasses an entire people. If only our sisters knew what awaits some of them out there! For, who has never heard of the bestial treatment which some of those "lucky" to have their white are given! Don't tell me you've never heard of the dog story.
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As an "Oyibo" with a Cameroonian girlfriend and living in Belgium, I'm chocked about your writing. I know the story about the dog, but that doesn't mean that every Oyibo is threating black girls that way. It's a shame that you talk about us that way. You certainly also know that almost all Oyibo, who have a black girlfriend or wife, are sending money to Africa to help the family of their love. I know a lot of African people, and have visited Africa several times, and I can tell you that black men sometimes threat their wifes very bad. I don't want to generalise, as you do about us, but most black men don't respect their wife or girlfriend, as they want to have sex with every girl they meet. I'm very sorry to talk like that but most Oyibo, who have black wife, deserve more respect for what they are doing for the family of their wife in Africa. And the dog storry concerns only a very small number of "criminal" Oyibo. One question to you "are all muslims terrorist because some extremists are putting bombs left and right?"
Dear "Oyibo" from Belgium, i totally share your view, generalizations are always wrong. I'm a black guy working in Europe and have been with an Oyibo girl for a long time. In our couple, I'm the one putting the food on the table, and i don't expect my family in law to be forever greatful for that. What you should understand through is that it is for the sake of preserving a minimum decency that extreme stories like the dog are spread. It keep our sisters from doing any possible atrocity to escape what some now consider as hell. Many will tell you they will do anything possible to cross the border. I am sorry this shocks you, but I'm ok with these stories to be spread so the majority will only go once they have found someone they can trust.
Don't tell me that bla bla bla crab about being an Oyibo and living with your African girl friend in Belgium and how you should be credited for helping her family back in Africa ok Reading in between the lines from what you just disclosed yourself, your African Girlfriend is definitely in a relationship with you due to ECONOMIC DEPENDENCY AND SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST and not for REAL LOVE Ok. You'll definitely be in denial after reading what I just disclosed but that is the truth ok. A midddle class African Girl will not dare go out with you period ..You Oyibos go to Africa and usually prey on the Less fortunate and financially desperate ones ... Their( POOR AFRICAN GIRLS) Usual and normal excuses most of the time is that their African Men do not treat them (girls) and (wives) with respect which is totally false because I leave in the West NY to be precise and I usually take vacation to A few West African State like Cameroon and Nigeria and what I usually witnessed some of the Oyibos Out there do to desperate teenage girls is UNBELIEVABLE and it boils down to ECONOMIC desperations else these girls will not tolerate most of these nonsense from these so called Oyibos ok . Most African Men will usually not spend their hard earned currencies on their local girls the same manner Oyibo Men will do using their High Purchasing power Currency thus at the end of the day the story from most of these financially Desperate ladies is that they're treated badly by the Boy friends or Husbands ok. Where on Earth do they treat women worst than in the West? Most of these Oyibos go to Africa to break the law and Rape teenage girls and boys in the name of tourism and vacation using their foreign currency as a bate because they know very well that if they dare try it in their home countries , their ass will be thrown in JAIL for live If everything was equal and your AFRICAN girl was from a Middle girl family and well educated like most of my African girl friends who are highly educated and financially Stable, I GUARANTEED you that she will definitely not be with you as we speak ok .. If you really want to know if you girl is with you for Economic and Financial reasons ONLY and not for love , Just suggest to her that you will love that you both should relocate and stay Permanently in Where ever she comes from in African then you get back to me with her response and answers
Miss. Morikang most of these girls who leave their country do better for themselves and their family. You rather have them stay in Cameroon and contract Aids. Cynics like you are the reason Cameroon continue it's free fall. Stop the misnformation.
I think anyone who leaves Cameroon in search for greener pastures to better him or herself is a good decision but what I find difficult to undertand is how someone can be little himself to obtain this objective. Remember leaving Cameroon to an "OYIBO" land does not guarantee a better life so if anyone want to embark on this advanture, he or she should do it with some dignity. I have been living in Madrid Spain for the past five years and I bet you life is not that easy as people back in Cameroon think, so one should never be little his or herself to a so called " OYIBO" and only to find out later than he/she has more to offer to the "OYIBO" than the "OYIBO" has to offer him/her.
So BEWARE MY BROTHERS AND SISTERS.
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