opinionBy Carolyne Nakazibwe
If husbands' main issues in the bedroom department are their penile sizes and longevity, then for their wives those are ably rivalled by lubrication, or the lack of it.
Particularly as a woman grows older or starts menopause, the "rainy" conditions of yesteryears start becoming a distant memory and what becomes more common are the desert-like conditions for "Missy"; these make for discomfort during intercourse and for many women it is one of the reasons why they dread making love with their husbands at all.
Those who can diagnose their problem correctly as insufficient lubrication often set out to comb bushes for herbs and raid pharmacies for artificial lubricants to try and rectify the problem. For others who know little about those parts of their bodies and how they function, they just shut down the "factory" due to malfunctioning machines that cause pain at any attempt.
The result: a gradual collapse of the marriage as stakeholders fail to reconcile the demand and supply curves. Ladies, you don't have to suffer silently through painful sex and neither is there a rule that forbids wives from enjoying making love with their husbands beyond a certain age!
You can make a few changes to your lifestyle and, bingo! Your factory will be back in business, with the machines whirring smoothly like all healthy engines would...
One young woman confessed that she stopped smoking because she realised the habit was affecting the water table in yonder land drastically.
She is one of the lucky few women who even care at all what happens in and near those sacred parts of their bodies. Most would not notice if a part dropped off altogether. So even other changes in, for example, lubrication, would go unnoticed until they became potential diseases due to the pain associated with them.
It has been scientifically proven that lifestyles such as smoking indeed do cause vaginal dryness, so if you are a smoker, start there. Choose between the tobacco and great sex. Of late, more women also suffer from fibroids.
If you do have those growths in your uterus, doctors have also intimated that you are likely to have trouble lubricating when trying for intimacy with your husband. Think about having them removed or treated, in order to get your groove back.
There is still no guaranteed cure for the menaces, but many experts in natural medicine have herbal interventions for fibroids. Don't ignore them; not only do they cause immense discomfort, but they are also known to cause anaemia and of course vaginal dryness.
Then there is the fact that Kampala's women in particular have weird eating habits. Just like the African man who still thinks his sharp potbelly is a sign of prosperity and good health, there are women who still believe a chips/chicken meal every day is the ultimate sign of living the good times.
But cholesterol-rich foods as well as starch-packed meals put a straw in the works and slowly suck you dry. So, watch what you eat. Dieticians and sex therapists recommend more fruits, vegetables and lots of water.
In the era where more people are taking this vitamin supplement or the other daily, shop for supplements rich in zinc and omega3 fats. The two aid lubrication a lot.
If you add stress busters and hormone tamers such as a good fitness routine, your juices should be back in no time.
Of course sometimes the lack of lubrication is as a result of hurried sex; a husband not giving enough time for his wife's proper arousal. But in cases where there has been sufficient foreplay and still... not enough drops to write home about, start looking at your lifestyle. Many things you got away with as a teenager or young girl in your twenties may not be your best friends as you grow older.