24 February 2013

Rwanda: Social Network or Social Evil?

When the unfriend button becomes irresistible

We all know it is a social networking site. But does Facebook (FB) have to be a social evil?

Judging from the way some people use it, the most popular site in the world has also become undesirable because of some below-the-belt posts. So thank God for the unfriend button, so one can always remove from their friends that one person who for reasons best known to themselves chooses to publicize their entire life on Facebook.

So if you are losing friends on FB, as it is commonly referred to, it could be because you share way too much information or you post, so frequently and on irrelevant matters, that people can't stand you clogging up their feed.

Here are a few things to avoid:

Bad language and profanity

Posts that always revolve about vulgar and swearing words make one appear most undesirable to some people because of their morality. If you are friends with someone who values their decency, then they will throw you to the trash bin. This will get you unfriended faster than you can imagine.

Updating your status way too often

Many of us have confessed at one point to being social network addicts. But some people take this addiction way too far; they can barely spend 30 minutes without updating their status.

The most annoying part of this is that they rarely consider whether they are relevant or not.

Fights with ex-lovers or friends

More often than not, a jilted lover or spouse will be tempted to bring the war to the social networks. Posting abusive statuses in reference to your ex might give you emotional satisfaction but it will not bring him or her back. And you will most definitely get unfriended by those friends who care less about your war and are finding it boring and childish.

If you have a problem face it, do not facebook it!

The bold and daring

There is a category of people who feel they are so bold and open-minded as to let everybody into what is happening in their life. If they have bad cramps, a sexual encounter, a crush on someone or had a drunken night, they will whine or brag about it on the news feed. No one cares about some of the most intimate details of your life.

The cry babies

This category has never shared a good experience. They are always posting about how hard life has been on them, how nothing good ever happens. Today it is sickness, tomorrow a bad job, the next day a bad relationship etc.

Whether it is a call for sympathy or attention we can't judge, but one thing is sure: the moment it becomes a routine, the unfriend button comes into play.

Boring updates

Everyone has a boring day of their own to deal with. Yet some people don't seem to realize that nobody cares that they are shopping, at the dentist's, stuck in a bank queue or in bed because it is chilly.

Everybody is somewhere facing their own challenges and if you do this often, it becomes likely that you never have anything better or exciting to talk about.

Too many pictures/achievements

Well, maybe it is true you are having a 'fab' life but so is everybody else. And for every thirty minutes you are posting a new picture; maybe they are better off in your album and your friends have pictures of their own too.

Achievements are good but not every time you achieve something is it necessary to tell on FB.

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