The pain of being dumped by a lover is often unbearable. It comes with heartbreaks that are not easy to nurse.
It is even worse when a lover delivers the "divorce" message in public. So, Desmond "Stunner" Chideme's heart should have sunk when he was publicly dumped by ex-girlfriend Pokello Nare just after her exit from Big Brother Africa: The Chase.
Pokello fell for Ghanaian BBA housemate Elikem. Wounds should be fresh on Stunner's heart, but the urban grooves musician has tried to keep his feelings to his personal emotional moments, telling everyone he has moved on and is not jealous of Pokello's new relationship.
However, the musician porttrayed his jealous and fresh heart wounds to Standardlife&style when he declared he would never come face-to-face with his successor, Elikem.
"I do not want to meet him. I would never meet him. Even if I was given an opportunity to perform at the gigs they have planned for their Zimbabwe fans, I would not take the offer," Stunner said.
Stunner said his statement did not emanate from a bleeding heart or jealousy.
"Look, here is a guy who wants to marry my ex-girlfriend and there is no need for me to be involved in their affairs. I attended Pokello's welcome home party but I can never attend their [Pokello and Elikem's] events for anyone's amusement.
"I am not jealous because I have moved on, as Pokello has done. I actually wish her the best. We had not gone to a level of discussing marriage with Pokello and I understand her because she has found someone who is prepared to marry her."
Elikem arrived in the country on Friday to meet Pokello's family and mingle with his local fans. The Ghanaian told our sister paper NewsDay that he was excited to meet his future in-laws.
"Coming to Zimbabwe is something I have always wanted to do. Finally, I will meet Pokello's mum and her family," Elikem said.
"After the eviction show, I spoke to Pokello's mum and have been looking forward to meeting her ever since. She seems to like me judging by her responses on the phone."
Pokello was also excited to have her new-found love in the country to introduce him to her family and Zimbabwean fans.
The lovebirds were scheduled to have fun with their fans at parties that would involve a number of local artistes.
Stunner would be in his shell during the eventful weekend. He does not want to talk about his love life after Pokello, but prefers to share ideas about his career.
"I am now focussing on my music career. I was in the United Kingdom and shot some videos. I am expecting the videos in the country anytime. I cannot waste time monitoring what Pokello and Elikem are doing because I have a career to work on."
Ironically, Elikem told Ghanaian media he knew about Stunner and had watched the sex tape featuring the musician and Pokello. Elikem said he does not mind his new lover's past relationships.